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Compromise....
by jimmymoonbeam00 @ 2007-11-28 - 23:36:59

Had lunch with someone today and we discussed compromise. We decided to both put our thoughts into words.

Her view was: there should be no such thing in compromise in a relationship and that 1 + 1 = 2.

My view is the 'or' or 'and' debate. In a relationship with no compromise, its and 'or' relationship. It's either you or me, my way or your way, my dreams or your dreams. 'And' is a compromise, me and you, your dreams and my dreams, your way and my way combining to make to. Infact, what I believe my friend has failed to realise in her description is that her sum is the sum of a compromise that 1 and 1 should make 2. They don't make 11, they are not two individual 1's.

Discuss.

But I'm right. ;)

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DaisyDreadDaisyDread [Member]
2007-11-29 @ 17:06

well I reckon relationships are based on compromise and you cant have one without it. Someone always has to cave in eventually. Although maybe thats where Im going wrong....LOL
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copdamcopdam [Member]
2007-11-29 @ 20:14

Having read both your posts, I agree with you. To say compromise leads to loss, or settling for less leaves very little room for anything else and is perhaps a bit too black and white for me.
I like your 'and'/'or' point, I think it illustrates well.
when you're in a relationship with someone, you can always continue to learn about them and discover more aspects about them, and about yourself as well. Compromising can in some cases lead to loss, but it can also be very enriching and rewarding.
People can't always have their own way so compromise is necessary. that's what I think anyway :D

mycorneroftheworldmycorneroftheworld [Member]
2007-11-29 @ 21:30

I am not sure I understood this? Does your friend mean that you should never have to compromise in a relationship? How is that possible with two different persons with different needs? At some issues you have to learn to meet half way, I think.

kath84kath84 [Member]
2007-11-29 @ 22:36

ah, the compromise debate rages on... ;-)

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